7 comments on “Getting Married for all the wrong reasons. I don’t feel butterflies.

  1. Thrs nothn like butterflies in d tummy(lol). Love grows over tyme,Marry him buh just kp Prayn cus I think dt will b d height of wickedness if u tll him nw,aftr he has spent money planning on d wedding!

      • In d olden days durn d tym of our granparents thy never gt to pick thr partners,thy were arranged fr thm and thy grew to Love thmselves and ths typs of marrIages lasted longer compared to ours! I jus daze say person fit pretend ds long,I strongly wanto blv thr mst v bn affectn along d line and she didn realize it.

  2. Hi Susan,

    My understanding of your situation is that you have never tried to know the guy instead, you are only concerned about getting over your personal challenges; that is where you are getting it wrong. Remember, a mistake at marriage is a mistake of life because your name would carry an attachment after that. ‘Mrs’ is the best. All others will be negative.

    My advice is for you to get to know him but how are you expectedto achieve that? below are my normal recommendations for those that have requested my advice.

    1. Sort the things you don’t like about him, those are your challenges.
    (Definitely there is something that brought you together)

    2. How much of those do you feel you can change during your togetherness?

    3. How much of those you can’t change can you tollerate?

    The determinant is how you go about No. 2 above as a matured mind. The butterflies will grow naturally during that process or …….

    Good luck to you!

    • Thank you for the sound advice Sir. From my correspondences with her, she could not pick a bad habit of his that was intolerable. It simply boiled down to the fact that she has no affection for him. Now with less than 2 months to the wedding, does she really have the opportunity to get to know him better now?

  3. Hi Susan,
    Marriage is an everlasting union filled with so much love and i see d word love missing on your own part. U should know what u really want for yourself. u deserve 2 be happy and since your happiness is not with dis guy then while don’t u let him go n find happiness too. Don’t go into marriage just because u want 2 be free 4rm your mum troubles and your age. Be bold enough 2 end dis while u still have d chance 2 do so as not 2 regret ever going into marriage. Always remember dis that a broken Engagement is better than a broken marriage. I Wish u all the best.

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