Hello Hera, Well done. Oya address this issue. Why are Nigerian girls so greedy eh? They expect a boyfriend to pay their school fees; their stupid brazilian hair, their fake nails, their clown makeup? Why? Girls that don’t know who Gucci is, expects a boy to get them Gucci bags. Wetin dey worry una? (LMAO). I invited a girl that I was asking out to see a movie with me at Ozone Cinema and she came with two of her friends. Then she asked me to pay for them and not to disgrace her. Like WTF? I am not even your boyfriend yet, if I become one, it means I will be feeding your whole dorm na. The trend is really bad and I think it’s just Nigerian girls because I am presently in London and the girls here are independent and take care of their own bills. Now I am not saying that a guy cannot provide for his girlfriend if he wishes to, but it’s not his job. Nigerian girls dey over do. LET THEM KNOW OOOO!!!!!
Yes Sir! Kelvin. E dey pain you abi? lol. I will let them know. We shall address the issue.
Now, as a girl, I agree that Nigerian girls have really begun to over do it. It seems like a boyfriend has to provide for his girl’s wants no matter how outrageous. I have never really understood the mindset of both parties but upon further survey and analysis, I have come to realize that both party blame the other for the trend. Below are 4 girls and 3 guys who gave me the viewpoints on the issue. (presentation is mine)
Girl one Stella – Philippians 1:6. He who starts a good work must finish it (at least this is how she quoted it). A guy approaches a girl with promises of heaven and earth when he is wooing her. He takes her out, spoils her with gifts and all. And now that he has gotten her, he wants to stop. Lie Lie!. He shall finish what he started. He will give her that heaven and earth. This is the impression he gave in the beginning. he cannot, after she has agreed to date him, rescind on the verbal agreement. He should park well.
Girl two- Carol- My friend’s boyfriend is taking care of all her needs (or so she says). Why do I have to be spending my own money taking care of myself when I have a boyfriend as well? Is he any different from the other guy? My friend is flaunting all the things her guy bought for her and see me here carrying last. Hell No! I should be able to talk my own too.
Girl three- Lara- Guys are just dogs. They are never faithful. You give them your heart, food and your body and they will still cheat on you with every passing girl. So at the end of the day when he leaves me for a newer model, what do I have to show for it? nothing. zilch. Na, while we are still together, he must provide for me. Abi isn’t it services I am providing.
Girl Four – Ngozi- Guys too dey complain. If a girl is self-sufficient, they will say this one won’t listen to them. Their ego kicks in and they dump the girl. If a girl is demanding from them, they complain that the girl wants to finish their cash. Bo. Their wahala is too much. They should make up their minds.
Guy one- Afolabi- Nigerian girls are greedy and materialistic. End of story. All they see is how their friends who are probably runs girls(Nigerian slang for student call girls), are displaying designer wears and they want to feel among, and then they start harassing their boyfriends to dole out hard-earned cash on them. e easy. they should go and do what their friends are doing and leave guys and their money alone jo.
Guy two-Chucks- Girls seem to have forgotten what a boyfriend is. He is someone who you are attracted to and/or love. He is not your bank or your chauffeur. he is not the one to pay for your friends. Yeah, he can get you things but it’s not his job to do so.
Guy three- Joshua- Its the fault of all these stupid pot-bellied old men. They lure our girls with cash and then the girls are accustomed to the lifestyle and expect their boyfriends to foot the bill. Na wash?
Hmmmm……. so these are the opinions of some Nigerian girls and guys. Now everyone made some ‘good’ points. I am going to reserve my view on the issue and throw it out there to my readers. Let’s debate the issue.
If you are a Nigerian, what do you think is the genesis of this trend? Who is to blame.
If you are not Nigerian, Is there a similar trend in your country? Do you think it’s the guy’s duty to pay for his girl?
Drop a line , let’s hash this out.