I love weddings……I have always wanted to be involved in weddings in one way or the other, but for some reason, I have been extremely unlucky. (sad face). My sister is, as I type this, on her 9th bridesmaid duty. Right from when we were kids, Everyone loved Zee. She was cute and spunky. She was always asked to be the flower girl or little bride for neighbours and acquaintances( we are Muslims, so we never used little brides or flower girls in our weddings). I was never asked. Yeah. I know that I was a chubby unattractive kid, but I always thought I made up for that in personality………………apparently not. Dammmit.
Growing up, I have always wanted to be a bridesmaid. Always. It is something I desperately yearned for. Sure the dresses were usually hideous, but that never deterred me. For me, being a bridesmaid meant that you are special to the bride. It meant you are important. However, it seemed no one wanted a plus size bridesmaid. I had friends pick acquaintances instead of me for the sole reason that they would look better in the dresses (ouch!) and I was always stuck in the aso-ebi roles. I usually left subtle hints to my friends that I wanted to be on their train but when that didn’t work,(Subtlety was never my strong suit anyways) I screamed at them “PUT ME ON YOUR FREAKING TRAINS”. That didn’t work either. Go figure. So I stopped asking.
So I had resigned to my fate that I would never be a bridesmaid in my lifetime. Then in 2010, an old school friend asked me to be part of her bridal party. I was super excited but kept a straight face. The conversation went thus.
“Are you asking me because you want me to be on your train or because you know I would be able to pay for the dress’
“I AM IN!!!!’
Now that I had my first bridesmaid opportunity, I wanted it to be perfect. Went off a diet(stopped after 2 weeks), went on a skin regime(had severe breakouts from an allergic reaction to Olay goat milk soap). At that time, I just gave up and went with the flow. During the fitting, I discovered that it was going to be strapless. (I don’t do strapless and In my excitement, I didn’t ask. Genius me). However, there was going to be a jacket….a ridiculously small jacket, but a jacket all the same) So it was not so bad. It was also one of the nicest bridesmaid dresses I had seen.
My first and most likely only bridesmaid outfit
I got a first hand experience on how tedious it is being a bridesmaid. It is more than just hanging around and looking pretty. The bride’s mum had me running errands, because I was the most familiar face to her. I was on my feet in my “raise me ups’ all day and they were really starting to hurt (‘Raise me up’ is what my sister calls my high heel shoes because I only wear two inches or less. I have a closet full of shoes (because they are pretty), but I only wear the 2 inches or less shoes (because they are practical and I have wobbly feet). So as far as she is concerned, 2 inches or less are not Heels) It made me wonder why anyone would want to be a bridesmaid. It’s not as glamorous as I thought it would be, but I am so glad I got to do it once before I got too old to do it.
So, have you ever been a bridesmaid? What was your experience? Did you do it because you loved the idea like I did, or out of obligation to your friends? Have you never been a bridesmaid? Drop a line.