Weight loss after baby- Dealing with insensitive remarks.

Hey everyone. Its been a while. Beebee turned seven weeks yesterday (They grow up so fast) and I am down an astonishing 13.4kg. Almost 30 pounds in 7 weeks. That is an insane number for me. I wish I could take credit for it and say I have been eating right and exercising, but honestly, I did nothing. The baby weight is just falling off. Just 9 more pounds to pre pregnancy weight.
I shared the weight loss on my Blackberry status. I got a message from an old acquaintance, desperate to know how I did it. She gave birth three months ago and she has lost very little weight. She said her husband constantly berates her for still being fat, calls her lazy and compares her to other women who has recovered their body quicker. She is considering tying her teeth or going on a diet (face palm). Did I mention she is nursing and considering this. She is really having a miserable time and suspects cheating.

Honestly, I don’t know what to tell her. Some men seriously lack empathy. Taking care of a newborn as well as fulfilling all your other duties as a wife is not easy. As someone who is ‘concerned’ (I don’t wish to use the word ‘obsessed’) about weight gain, I totally understand how she feels. This
That brings me to today’s issue. Naturally, since I am unapologetic-ally vain, is a period where she ought to be focusing on her little one and enjoying her precious gift. She should not be made to feel unattractive and obese. Now I am not advocating that she sits on her hands and gain oodles of weight, but it has only been three months. It took nine months to gain the baby weight. Surely it would take some time to get them all off.

Now I am no dietician or gynecologist, but I do know tying your teeth or dieting while nursing is a bad bad bad idea. You can make healthier food choices that would benefit you and your baby, but no fad diet biko. As for your hubby, well I don’t have anything nice to say so I will say nothing at all. Please research. There are safer, better and healthier ways to lose weight after a baby and honestly, weight loss should not even be a priority (I can’t believe I just wrote that, considering how much I would love to lose my baby weight and more). Baby first. Just remember your baby eats what u eat, so imagine what your baby would have to eat if you were to tie your teeth or go on a fad diet. Then again, I am no expert.

Please, people with better advise, please drop a comment. Sometimes, you wonder why one was born a woman. We seem to have the cards stacked against us at every turn.

2 Comments Add yours

  1. Jen says:

    Insensitive much? There are more tactful ways to get her to lose weight. How about encouraging her by eating healthy with her? The odds are really stacked against us. Men will marry and grow pot bellies for no reason but complain when a woman gains weight from childbirth

  2. priscilla says:

    Lol,with my first I lost the bby weight instantly,ryt nw I v a secnd child n she is presently 4mnths,and I vn lost my bby weight. My hubby is complainin I reminded him of our weddn vows n told him to looooove me like ds cus personally I looove my new body,lolllz. N yup dt wrkd like magic

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