The Trials of Fatimah- the struggles of an orobo Part 6

Sorry, I had to pause the story for a while. Some wise guy was posting my story on his blog under the title “The fat diaries of kike’ (not a bad title). So I patiently put it on hold so and I cheerfully waited to see what he would post next. His readers were on his case anxiously awaiting the next episode. I kept commenting asking for the next episode on every single article he posted (I think i have a slightly sadistic side. hehehe). Anyways, I am bored with that now, so i am going to continue. I realise it is hard to control content on the web, so i am not going to make a big deal about it………..yet) Meanwhile 99th Posts. HUrrraaayyyyyy!!!!!!!!!!!! Continue reading

The bridesmaid specialist is now the bride

Hello people. Remember I posted an article a lifetime ago about how my sister was always asked to be a bridesmaid and I never was…..almost never was. read that HERE . I am excited to announce that the bridesmaid specialist is now the bride.. hurray. This weekend, a wise wise young guy took another of the Idrisu girl as a wife. (We Idrisu girls are very special with a heart of gold…. though I like to think that mine is more of titanium mixed with a little platinum with just a hint of………..what was I again?)

Ahaaa the wedding….Thanks to our relocation which was very timely, I was able to attend the ceremony. Considering how vain I am, I was determined to look fabulous to all the aunties and uncles who had not seen me in years. I have worked relatively hard all year to lose the baby weight and I was a few kg shy of my ultimate goal but alas! I try if I do say so myself. Continue reading

Weight loss after baby- Dealing with insensitive remarks.

Hey everyone. Its been a while. Beebee turned seven weeks yesterday (They grow up so fast) and I am down an astonishing 13.4kg. Almost 30 pounds in 7 weeks. That is an insane number for me. I wish I could take credit for it and say I have been eating right and exercising, but honestly, I did nothing. The baby weight is just falling off. Just 9 more pounds to pre pregnancy weight.
I shared the weight loss on my Blackberry status. I got a message from an old acquaintance, desperate to know how I did it. She gave birth three months ago and she has lost very little weight. She said her husband constantly berates her for still being fat, calls her lazy and compares her to other women who has recovered their body quicker. She is considering tying her teeth or going on a diet (face palm). Did I mention she is nursing and considering this. She is really having a miserable time and suspects cheating.

Honestly, I don’t know what to tell her. Some men seriously lack empathy. Taking care of a newborn as well as fulfilling all your other duties as a wife is not easy. As someone who is ‘concerned’ (I don’t wish to use the word ‘obsessed’) about weight gain, I totally understand how she feels. This
That brings me to today’s issue. Naturally, since I am unapologetic-ally vain, is a period where she ought to be focusing on her little one and enjoying her precious gift. She should not be made to feel unattractive and obese. Now I am not advocating that she sits on her hands and gain oodles of weight, but it has only been three months. It took nine months to gain the baby weight. Surely it would take some time to get them all off.

Now I am no dietician or gynecologist, but I do know tying your teeth or dieting while nursing is a bad bad bad idea. You can make healthier food choices that would benefit you and your baby, but no fad diet biko. As for your hubby, well I don’t have anything nice to say so I will say nothing at all. Please research. There are safer, better and healthier ways to lose weight after a baby and honestly, weight loss should not even be a priority (I can’t believe I just wrote that, considering how much I would love to lose my baby weight and more). Baby first. Just remember your baby eats what u eat, so imagine what your baby would have to eat if you were to tie your teeth or go on a fad diet. Then again, I am no expert.

Please, people with better advise, please drop a comment. Sometimes, you wonder why one was born a woman. We seem to have the cards stacked against us at every turn.

Confessions of an Orobo(Plus Size) Chick

I was sent this hilarious video by OmogeKofo. It was so funny that it inspired me to do this prayer.

Confessions of an Orobo(Plus Size) Chick

Forgive me Lord because I have sinned………..again
I Know by now you go don tire for my matter
But Lord, what can I do?
Temptations Temptations all around

Lord, you know that I tried
The Velvet Cake sat there in the fridge for HOURS
Lord, you know how much I resisted it
Going for Rabbit Food while Ignoring it
Ignoring the wonderful aroma
Lord, you know that I tried

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Rant- Leave Pregnant Women Alone!!!!!!

I came across this article on Yahoo that made me angry. It turns out that Cozy Belly is selling some new pregnancy shape wear for pregnant women. This is not some gear like Belly Band that helps pregnant woman who need the abdominal support to reduce back pain. No No….In Cozy Belly’s own words

“For pregnant women who want to gain a little extra control over the shape of their body, we offer pregnancy shapewear. If you want to cover up some of those extra pounds, for instance, we offer stomach shapers and slimming body suits.”

Are you Kidding me? Women are ALREADY subjected to a stereotype perfect body image and now the ONE time that they can let go and be free, the ONE time that they can eat whatever they like (within reason, baby safety first. no one should gain too much during pregnancy), you are trying to tell them to be self-conscious of their body. You are trying to tell them that the extra pounds that they gained which is a natural part of being pregnant is unsightly and should be hidden under spanxs, body magic, body shapers, whatever!!! What is wrong with this world? It is bad enough that women feel the need to look perfect in dresses they wear on a daily basis by using tightening undergarments (I will not lie. I do have two), but to ask pregnant women to do same is ridiculous. To even suggest that any pregnant woman would need to ‘cover up some of those extra pounds’ is the most annoying thing I have read this month (and I read a lot of annoying things)

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That’s a size too small- Big Girls Dressing Badly

Ever walk down the street and see a plus size girl on a dress that is way too tight, emphasizing her folds and large stomach. I am sure we all have. As a plus size girl myself, it saddens me to see them. Some of my friends are guilty of this (I would like to think I am not; but I am sure I may have once or twice worn something too tight, though I can’t remember if i have). Out of respect for them, I wont feature their pictures, but una know unaselves.
bad dressing


The question is why do big girls wear too tight clothes when they are not Kim Kardashian. Some big girls wear small-clothes because they genuinely don’t know that the cloth is too tight and is emphasizing their body flaws. Others are defiant because smaller people are wearing them and they feel if it can enter and not tear, they are good to go. I would like to believe that all plus girls who wear too tight clothes have no idea how unflattering it looks, but come on! That’s why mirrors exist!!!!!! Tight clothes don’t make you look slimmer. It only serves to remind people how big you are.

Course there is the other side of the divide. Wearing too loose clothes. I was guilty of this because I loved the ease the free clothes gave me. A few years back, I didn’t care about fashion. I cared more about comfort. The downside was that everyone thought that I am actually bigger than i was. So if you are a plus size girl, having a closet full of muumuu like clothes is a very bad idea. Try and mix up comfort with style.

So my dear plus size ladies, ease up on the tight clothes. You know when a dress is too small. Try and dress for your size. You know what fits you. Study and understand your body. Dress to what accentuates your best features. There is nothing sexier than a plus size girl who knows how to dress her body. (skinny girls can pull off almost anything, so whatever…. yea i am hating on you skinny girls. Ha!)

fat and fab

big girls dressing nicely

big girls dressing nicely2

Look around. There are many designers that cater to plus size ladies, so look for nice trends. Have fun with clothes……….just make sure they are the right size


Drop a line. Would you tell your plus size friend that she is wearing a wrong dress size?

Don’t Call us fat! Call us Plus-size.

A few months back, I was at a Max shop in Manama with some Nigerian ladies. We were looking at some baby clothes and out of the blue, one lady says ‘Shey you know you are fat’. Raising my eyebrow,I responded “NOO!! Really??’ and she nodded “really”. (I really hate it when people don’t get sarcasm). I found this quite offensive, not because it wasn’t true…………..technically, but it was ill-timed and tactless.
There are a million and one articles and commercials about overweight people. Every Tom, Akpos and Harry have one or the other magic weight loss formula out there, promising quick results. Reality shows like Biggest loser,Extreme make over-weight loss, super size vs super skinny all focus on this. While I cannot undermine the usefulness of eating right and getting healthy, the article is more about fat shaming.
Lets face it. We don’t like fat people.(Using the word fat for morbidly obese people). Yeah, they are funny to look at, but when we see an obese person, the first thing that goes on in our heads is “damn, why would she let herself get this way?’. Some cases of obesity are hereditary, most are lack of willpower and exercise. However the word “fat” is being brandished around for those even slightly overweight. Like my awesome self. I never did consider myself fat growing up. I felt fit, i felt agile. i could do most things even skinny people can’t do. But I was told I was fat. then I was 165 pounds. So i decided to do something about it. Enter in the fad diets, the drugs, the energy drinks. I yoyo-ed myself to a whooping 198 pounds. Was I heavier, yes? Could I still move like a champ ……definitely (in my mind atleast). I had built more bulk and had the most annoying belly and back fat to deal with. One thing I took away from my yoyo diet experience was my love for exercise. (from Zumba,taebo, hip hops abs, belly dancing, walking…..still hate to run and i hate Pilates).

Rocking the move with heels and a million dinars smile

Now I find the word fat offensive. Yeah you probably have an eyebrow raised like why? Fat is fat. A lot of political correctness BS right? Yea, it may be political correctness BS, but many people do find it offensive. Most  people know that they are fat, they DON’T need you to spell it out for them. Employ some tact when dealing with over weight people. Don’t go telling them that they are fat, they need to lose weight. They know that. Except you are family, close friend, a professional doctor or dietician, please shut up. Thank u.
Now the terms I prefer are plus size (thank u Tyra Banks for introducing me to that word), obese or morbidly obese. Even overweight sounds less offensive in my opinion.Yeah i could feel some of the readers rolling their eyes. Plus size….. fat….kini difference. this is the difference.1lb_fat
Plus size and fabulous
So to all my plus size ladies, love your body no matter the shape. If you are not happy with it, do something ABOUT it, but please educate yourself before embarking. Even if you are happy with it, never forget the health risks involved. I would be featuring health tips from my dear friend Olatoro, who lost over 60 pounds with no drugs and no fad diets.

She looks fab before and after, doesn’t she?

So drop a line. Am i being overly dramatic with hating the word’fat’ or do you hate it too?

Do you find being called fat offensive